Silence… so peaceful yet so loud!!

SILENCE, what is silence? Well technically if you google it it says – “No Noise, No Sound” but if you try to listen and if you succeed to listen, Silence is the loudest noise that can ever exist!

Now silence is not just about the quite surroundings, a silent heart is the showstopper! And if you try to listen, silent hearts make the loudest noise.

Generally people don’t take someone’s silence seriously, they think that the person is probably an introvert or has an ego to interact with others or may be is a loner. But a loner is someone who enjoys their own company and enjoys their own space whereas a person who chooses silence can never be a loner because they are never alone. The voices in their head never actually leave them alone. And it requires a tremendous amount of strength to keep going with a silent heart and a chaotic mind.

It may seem strange and quite too good to be true but these are the people with the most beautiful heart and the kindest nature. They carry so much love in them that if someone is lucky enough to experience this love, they might fall in love with this love.

When a person becomes silent from outside, they actually are crying the loudest from inside.

We often fail to notice the people around us. Seeing them and actually noticing or observing are two different things. And since we fail to actually notice, we often end up complaining that “Oh you’re changed”, “You’re not the same anymore”, “You don’t talk to me anymore” etc.

Instead, we need to sit down with them and try to actually listen to them. Because when we do, we can actually hear the noises in their head. When we do try to listen, we can actually see that there is a person hiding inside this silence who has so much going on with them, has so much to say, so much to express but they could not since there was no ear.

Now the question is, how would I know if the person in front of me is not silent by choice? The answer is very simple, ASK!

When I say ask, I don’t mean to just simply ask a question. I mean to actually ask, I mean to go and sit down with them and be there to actually listen. Listen, not to answer, not to advise but to understand or to just listen, to just give them an ear.

And if you listen to them carefully, you will understand how beautiful that heart is that was capable to keep so much inside it and yet kept quite. You will be able to see the heart that has so much chaos going on inside but shows not even a single sign of it to the world. You will see how beautiful silence can be, because a silent heart, a silent person, even though struggling, always tries to see the beauty in everything and keep going with everything life throws at them with nothing but grace and elegance.

If you listen carefully, silence is beautiful.

Now you might also ask that why have they become silent? They could’ve talked, they could’ve asked for help. But it doesn’t work that way, imagine you are bothered by a mountain of things, emotions, drama and you still find it easy to keep it all in instead of going out and sharing. Imagine how hard it must be that instead of talking to someone, choosing silence seemed easier.

If there is someone who has become quite, don’t hesitate to sit with them and talk. Trust me, you will get to learn so many aspects of life and you will be able to see things in so many different ways. These people have beautiful minds I tell you!

And to all those who have become silent for any reasons, YOU ARE STRONG! You dealt with all of it, all alone! You did not ask for help, you did not cry to others, and most importantly – you did not give up! It takes an immense amount of strength to choose to fight your battles alone, it is not everyone’s cup of tea. It requires patience and strength, loads of it! I know I needed.

As beautiful as it can be, silence to needs to be heard sometimes. Be an ear to someone who is left with no words to say. Even people who cannot speak try to express when reached out, then why can we reach out to someone who can speak but isn’t able to?

If you are struggling to talk to someone, if you are hiding all of your pain and emotions inside you and if you are reading this – TALK! Talk to someone, at least try. I am sure there will be people who will happily sit down with you, holding your hand and will be all ears.

To those who know someone who’s struggling, be there for them and you’ll see them there for you at all costs till the end of the world.

To all those who are struggling, You are doing amazing, thank you for being so strong for so long. You’ll be fine, I promise!

CHANGE – The only constant thing about life.

That’s what life is all about, change. And I personally appreciate change but only till it’s for the good.

Time, nature, weather, places, people – everything changes. What not changes, is the way we used to know it before it turned out to be something different. And this, what not changes, is what makes it difficult.

My mother often used to say, “You are a fool, you think everyone out there is like you and you can count on them. You give your 100% in helping others and yet you are the one standing alone in the end. People use you and you let them. They stay good to you as long as it favors them and then they change.”
I used to get irritated whenever she said this, but with the passing time I’m coming to realize that every single word that she said was true. So so so damn true!

I have seen a lot of people change in my life, hell even I changed a lot! And it was a good change, I like me this way better. My people like me this way better.

I used to be someone with a broad mind stuck inside the narrow ideologies and now I openly speak what I think, I used to be this girl who used to care about what people think and now I just don’t give a damn about it, I used to be dependent on someone for every single thing and now I am managing everything alone starting from struggles to earning to travelling and even taking care of my parents (I’m proud to say this).

I like the progress I made on myself over the years and I am proud to be who I am today. Everyone should own the changes that made them the way they are and should feel grateful that life gave them a chance to change for better – and I mean only for better.

You know how we humans and specially humans like me who wants to see only good in people are – we feel it’s our responsibility in the name of humanity to just be there for everyone and anyone even though we know that every time we do so we do get kicked for sure. But then you know what, that’s who we are and that is how we see others. We do not look at everyone and think that damn this person’s gonna mess it up! We want to see good in everyone, we do see that only.

Lately I came across people who used to be the kindest, purest, innocent human being (or at least they pretended to be so) untill they were in need and untill the time they achieved something better. Yes, success has it’s own pros and cons. It has the power to destroy someone who could not handle it well.

Success is something that makes you feel alive, happy, it is something that motivates you to make a change for the good. It motivates you to help people achieve what they desire because by doing so, you get to re-live the journey you had. It gives you the power to feel this really amazing sense of pure joy and freedom and dedication. It makes you want to work harder, to achieve more. It never makes you forget your morals, your values or makes you hurt someone.

But sometimes, some people choose only the cons. They completely change into someone so unrecognizable that it becomes hard to even look at them and tell that oh yeah! it’s the same person I knew.

Sometimes I even think do these people have anything real about them? Did they really change or is it the mask they were wearing fell down? Because a person who is sweet and kind and pure cannot become an entirely different person overnight.

And before you think so, let me clear this that no I am not complaining about being this way, not at all! I am in love with myself and I feel proud to be this woman that I am right now. But what disturbs me is how the hell these people fake goodness so nicely and effortlessly and don’t even blink before stabbing in the back of that one person who was there with them all the time.

Yes change is inevitable, we all know that. Yes things and people too should change with the time. But this change is for the better. For better self growth, for better self understanding, for better relationships (with yourself too), for better connection, for better surroundings. And for these, change is a MUST!

But the question is – changing in a way that makes you unrecognizable, is this for the better? Changing in a way that makes someone feel that they did a mistake by sticking around, is this for the better? Changing in a way that completely negates the nature that you had, is this for the better?

Do Not Give Up!

Life is a never ending challenge. To be happy, we got to live upto our dreams, our hopes, our expectations and we got to do justice by ourselves by not giving up. Yes there comes lot of such moments that are the weak moments or moments where you feel like this is it! But that is when you need to stay composed and keep your calm. That moment my friend, is your life testing you and how strong you come out of it, that is you giving it back to the hard time.

No one ever said that life was going to be easy, no one ever will. And if anyone tells you that it is going to be easy, they’re either being dishonest with you or they’ve been dishonest to themselves their whole life! Life is a beautiful journey indeed, but what makes it beautiful is how you go along with whatever it throws your way and how you never give up.

Life is a journey which must be travelled no matter how bad the roads and accomodations.
OLIVER GOLDSMITH

We often complain that life is unfair but is it really unfair or we are the ones who are actually unfair with life? The life we are living is the biggest blessing one can have. If you woke up this morning, you are blessed and you should thank life. No one told that this would be easy but no one ever told that it is not worth trying!

May be there are a lot of failures right now, may be there are lots of heartbreaks going on one after another, may be there are lot of rejections going on, may be everything you see or touch screams out loud a big NO to you; but this doesn’t mean you should just stop trying. What if the success lies just after one more try? What if the dream you are chasing is just one step away from you and you decide to not even try climbing that step?

How will you ever answer the question that will keep haunting you , “What would have happened if I would have tried just once more?”… Imagine yourself taking that one teeny-tiny step and then living the dream you’ve always wanted to! You will be so so proud of yourself that you never gave up!

Never give up on something you can't stop thinking about!

I didn’t give up!

I myself have gone throught a very rough patch in my life, quite a several times if I may say! I am going through a difficult time right now, in some or the other ways we all are. But I survived till now, we all have and we can do this! There was a time in my life where I decided to give up, I lost my hopes but I thought of giving it one more try and that was the best thing I ever did! And I am glad today that I didn’t give up on myself!

I have not failed.
I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
THOMAS EDISON

 I still wonder what would it have been like if I decided to quit that day? How would my life be right now if I stepped down that day and if I would have decided to give up? I cannot even imagine!

I used to cry, I used to have sleepless nights, I was becoming someone I was not. But I kept going, I always had this one thing in my head that if I don’t help myself, no one else is going to help me! Believe me when I say that YOU are the only constant supporter and motivator you’ve got. No one will ever have your back as long as you will, you need to become your own backbone. Nothing can stop you as long as you don’t give up on yourself.

And to be honest, I am a little proud that I didn’t give up inspite of all the noise around me that were screaming in my ears and somehow made it to my head to give up! And I choose not to give up now as well and never in future. I might fall countless times, I might take time to get back on my feet but I will get back and I will keep moving because I know somewhere around the corner lies the answer to all my struggles.

You may see me struggle but you will never see me quit.

We should not give up and we should not allow the problem to defeat us.
A. P. J. ABDUL KALAM

Life will always have its own ups and downs but that is what means that you are living. How will we learn to appreciate the happy moments if we do not accept a few bad ones? How will we ever know the importance of hard work and success if we do not see a few failures? If achieving something was so easy, wouldn’t everyone be achieving something the moment they get out of their bed?

It is just like our heartbeats. Even our heartbeats have ups and downs, the moment it becomes flat it is THE END! That is how life is, it is going to be filled with lots of ups and downs but we have to stand up against all the odds and keep trying to move towards the brighter side.

We all know that life goes on but what we don't know is the HOW! And it's better this way, life unfolding its  hidden treasures and adventures with it's own pace!

What to do when you feel like giving up?

The first step is ACCEPTANCE! Accept that you are not at your best, accept that this was not your time. This will not be easy, not at all! At times you might feel like crying, you might feel like you are not good enough. And when you feel so, let it out, share with someone, cry out loud, write it down or even take a break and take your own time to accept it and try to think what you learnt from your failure. As long as you keep learning from your setbacks, you will keep moving one step ahead! Try to figure out how can you improve and what can you improve.

Acceptance is not easy, it is very difficult but then again without accepting what we have, we cannot achieve what we want.

Acceptance makes an incredible fertile soil for the seeds of change.
STEVE MARABOLI

Become your own competitor and moreover become your own critic. Your inner critic is your best friend, question yourself the moment you think of quitting. Ask yourself-

Is this all you've got?
Is this what you aways dreamed about?
Is this the person you imagined yourself to be?

Question yourself, learn from your setbacks, do better than the previous time but NEVER EVER DOUBT YOURSELF. Trust the timing of life and let it unfold. All you need to do is give your best shot each time and if you fail, say -“NEVER MIND! I’LL DO BETTER!” Life is not and will never be a dreamy, happy place. You will have to make it a happy place of your dreams.

Work for your dreams, no matter how hard it becomes. Have the courage to take the path towards your dreams and enjoy the journey through the thick and thin. Keep moving at your own speed, take as much time as you need but DO NOT EVER GIVE UP! You deserve the life you want and do not let anyone or anything believe you anything less!

Dreams are like plants, you need to water them with your hard work, dedication and belief. If you give up on them, they will give up on you!

You may be the only person left who believes in you, but it’s enough. It takes just one star to pierce a universe of darkness.
Never Give Up!
RICHELLE E. GOODRICH

LET IT GO..

Hello people..

Have you ever gone through something which hurts you deep into your bones and takes the life out of you and still you stay into the dilemma of holding on and letting go??

It’s tough yeah?? I know it is, even I found it a tough task to do. Probably one of the most difficult things I had to do ever..

Letting go of something you held so tight for so long needs a huge amount of courage, letting go of something you want badly needs a lot of strength because it not only demands to let go of something you dreamt of like from forever but it also snatches the right of even thinking about getting that thing back from you.

And it hurts… It hurts really bad..!!

But you know what, there comes a time when you are better without what you want the most. Why? Because not every cup is your cup of tea no matter how much you like it..!

Before deciding whether to hold on to or let go of something or someone, we need to understand what do they contribute to our lives.. We need to understand whether it is meant for us or not. Let us consider a very simple example, whenever we go for shopping, we might like a lot of dresses or shoes but we don’t buy them immediately. Do we? No, we don’t..!! We first try them and check whether they fit us or not, whether they are looking good on us or not and then we reject those that don’t fit us, no matter how much we liked it.

Why so? Because if we try to fit into a dress that is not meant for us, either it will hurt us or it will look like an extra large jumper hanging on a hanger ultimately disgusting our look. Or if we try to fit into the shoes not meant for us, either our toe starts to hurt or else our feet hangs somewhere in air with each step we take. And when all these experiments are done, we select something that fits us so nicely that it looks like it was made for us only.

Same is with the people, feelings and emotions. Holding on to any person or any feeling that hurts you or takes your peace away hurts as hell. It hurts you emotionally, mentally and then ultimately hampers your personality. It turns you into someone that’s not you. Stretching a rubber band more than a particular extent will hurt you only and if accidentally or suddenly it slips from your hand, it hurts even more. So it’s better to leave it before it starts to hurt you more and more.

Holding on to any person, love, friend or feeling that destroys you mentally, that doesn’t contributes in your peace, needs to be left.

Now why to let go.. I have written previously about Self Love. And I will again say First Love Yourself (F L Y). A person who cannot love himself/herself should not expect anyone else to love them. And if you cannot love yourself, no one else will ever love you the way you deserve. And if you love yourself you need to let go of every toxic thing around you be it a feeling, a person, a thing or anything else.

You lost your love? You lost your job? You failed in exam? You loved someone who loves someone else? CRY.. Yes cry over it. Cry for as many days you want to but once you’re done make sure that you never ever cry for that reason again. And for this, you need to let it all go.

To cure any disease we need to take bitter pills. They taste like poison and we feel like just spilling it out and sometimes we even think “I am okay with this disease but I don’t want to have this bitter poison..” but this is not the right thing to do right? If we want to get well, we need to take those bitter sips so as to recover. And it’s just a matter of time, once we get well, no more tasteless food or bitter medicine is required.

Similarly, we need to take the pain of letting go in order to achieve the ultimate peace. Yes it will hurt, yes it will make you cry, it might even force you to give up but then there’s no bad in taking a little pain which will ultimately contribute into your happiness, your smile, your peace. Every story that starts, comes to an end someday.

Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened..

Life is too short to be taken for granted. One should never destroy their present thinking about their forever.. FOREVER is the most overrated word these days, when we don’t even know how many days of our lives are left, why to destroy the day we are living at present by thinking about a forever and a future which doesn’t even exists right now???

Learn your value..

Love yourself..

Know your worth..

Don’t take today for granted..

Make yourself a priority..

Let go of what demands your own self..

Because when you let go, you create space for something better. Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did. LET IT GO.

Even the frozen princess sings it out loud-

My power flurries through the air into the ground
My soul is spiraling in frozen fractals all around
And one thought crystallizes like an icy blast
I’m never going back, the past is in the past..

LET IT GO….

Self Love…

The meaning of love is disappearing day by day.. People mistake “LOVE” as something they can only give to others, but they forget that the most important person of their life is THEY THEMSELVES. They forget to love themselves before loving someone else or before expecting love from someone else.

Self love is something that tells people how we should be treated. Loving ownself is the standard we set for the people who come into our lives and claim to love us.

Heartbreaks are so common these days and people keep blaming “LOVE” for this.. But actually love is the most beautiful feeling one can have, loving someone is pure happiness and loved by someone is what all of us wish for..

Love makes a person beautiful from the inside and out.. Then how could this pure emotion be blamed for all heartbreaks??

The problem is, when we fall for someone, we forget ourselves. We forget that long before they came into our lives, we were with ourselves. We should not just put the key to our happiness in someone else’s hands.. Happiness is something that comes from inside, nobody can inject it into you. Fall in love but, don’t forget to love yourself first.

Loving oneself is like decorating the cake of your life, with sprinklers, frosting etc.. And the love you get from others is just the cherry at the top.

But without the entire cake beneath, that cherry is just a tiny fruit and nothing special..

Your love for yourself is the example for the type of love you deserve. It is a kind of demo of how you should be loved. So that if at the worst case possible your love fails, you’ll be saved from hurting yourself, hating yourself, and breaking yourself down. You’ll know that, this was not what you deserved.. You deserve better love, a love which is kind of the love you have for yourself.

Self love is the armour which saves you and your heart from destruction..

Before giving all of your love to someone else and expecting to get the same in return, first love yourself, let them see, let them know how you should be loved, what kind of love you deserve, and then see the magic happening all around..

Self love is not selfish; you cannot truly love other untill you know how to love yourself.

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